What Women Do
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I do that a lot.... contemplate what I would do if my husband died.
So we were talking about just that--the loss of our spouses.
Then the conversation turned a little and we began to discuss the crazy things women do to themselves. We came up with three.
1) Contemplate their husbands deaths and what they would do to carry on.
2) Contemplate their children's deaths and what they would do to carry on.
3) Contemplate being attacked in their own home by a complete stranger and what they would do to get away. i.e. the 'escape plan.'
Then we started wondering if it was odd behavior on our part or if most women did those things. So, today I thought we'd discuss this.
Do you have a carry on plan? Do you have an escape plan?
My 'carry on if my husband dies' plan hinges entirely on his life insurance policy. Without that windfall of money I would be lost. I would have nothing. With it I would be able to buy a home, afford an education for myself and invest enough to be able take care of our children for many years.
My 'escape plan' is... well in South Dakota I've never really thought about it (I must feel exceptionally safe here) but when we lived in Phoenix I had it all planned out. I would run into the children's room, barricade the door, open the windows of the bedroom and scream bloody murder. If that didn't work then I would have a lot of really heartless neighbors.
Am I odd? Is it normal for a woman to worry about these things? What do you think?
Comments
I do all 3. Regularly.
I do have plans for all as well. I'm going back to school even in case of the death thing so I can support my kids.
I read a newspaper article, several years ago, which talked about military spouses doing "pre-grieving" - going through the whole "what if my soldier gets killed?" scenario with every deployment, to the point of actually grieving as if it has happened - crying, etc. Some psychologist they quoted said it was a coping mechanism that would make things easier, if the worst really did happen. Hmmm. Could anything really make it easier? I'm doubtful.
*sigh* I'm supposed to be working on my blog post. Avoidance - it's a wonderful talent.